Skip to main content

Dear Son, Big Fan of the Kid Turning Seven


---6 Years Old ---

Dear Son, 

It’s been a while since I’ve dropped a few thoughts.

Forgive me, I’ve just been watching. Just observing. Taking it all in. Trying to be a good dad.

I’m punching the keys today from one of your martial arts practices. It’s your second with “the big kids” and also the second time I’ve found myself watching from the sidelines with anxiety, with pride, and with likely my biggest fandom for you yet in this space. My feelings are much more than you playing baseball or coaching you in basketball.

Your disposition is different. Your excellence is different in this space.

With martial arts, you stay diligent with the process. Respectful. Working hard. Getting better. In competition with and respecting the older kids you are training with. That’s what I’ve enjoyed.

It encapsulates everything you’ve grown into thus far. Still empathetic as ever, but adding an element of self-ambition and drive - something I’ve prided myself on - and to see you mature into this makes my heart happy.

You’re growing from “let’s be on teams” and afraid of failure into taking the occasional bold step - “ok daddy, you and me, one on one!” Whether it’s driveway basketball, front lawn wiffleball, WWE 2K on the PlayStation 5, or locking down your striking patterns…you have specific standards and are daring to get yourself there.

Baseball was fun, but it seems to come easily (-and right now, you just like it). Basketball was challenging (and you love it, too), but you learned how to be a good teammate last season, and that you needed to work on things. Your relentless “can we shoot hoops” is evident after our season ended.

You’re stepping into the world, and as I write this, I’ve realized from these two new practices that I’m excited and so incredibly nervous for you every step of the way - even though I don’t show it. 

But there are also other moments…

Now, there’s the kid in my peripheral vision as I lift in the basement, counting…1, 2, 3, 4… doing pushups and burpees.

There’s the kid who wants Michael Jackson or Usher playlists on our car rides so we can jam out with sunglasses.

There’s the kid who hides from mommy to stay up and finish whatever wrestling event we’re watching together.

There’s the kid who is creative as they come, making things for this fictional wrestling company or providing his own commentary for basketball games on YouTube or for computer games.

Oh Ace. You’re turning seven years old!

I’m incredibly proud of the kid you are and becoming. And even more proud to say you’re my favorite person.

I’m SUCH a big fan of you. 

Happy Birthday, kid!

Love, Dad. 

Recently Read

Quick Ponder: Future Self

We always think,  what would we say  to our  younger self? However,  what would  our younger self say  if they met us, today?

Turning 40 - Grateful and Renewed

I became a forty-year-old individual yesterday.  The milestone is very significant for many and has its societal measures and benchmarks that carry some fear for those approaching its gates. Regardless of approach, turning 40 is filled with reflection, pondering (of course), and preparation for what should be a "new" stage of life. A life stage centered around "transitioning" into a stage seen as the "pre-senior" years.  Sure. Whatever.  I won't disagree that the new "4" digit that sits in front of your age feels encompassing even without understanding completely. Yet, as I stated last year when I turned 39 (going into my 40th year on this earth), I was ready for it. Ready for 40. Today, oddly enough, I am not filled with profound life lessons, ponderings, or reflections.  I sit here, punching the keys, filled with gratitude. I am 40, and I love it.   I carry my baggage of life and bear scars from it at 40. I am grateful for so many experien...

Knicks Trauma - Ugh Not Again

Well, that was a kick in the stomach.  Coming off a week where the word "catharsis" was used as the description for the euphoria and release of joy from two and a half decades of suffering, Game 1 of the Eastern Conference Finals against the Indiana Pacers brought about another word - trauma.  Watching the Knicks collapse was the kind of moments that come with these deep runs and moments. NBA Playoff basketball will do that. Yet, this loss - this one - feels about as bad as the 2004 ALCS when the Yankees collapsed in the series to the Boston Red Sox.  That one carries some serious trauma. Luckily, the series isn't over.  Some other quick thoughts from this awful, awful night, New York Knicks Basketball.  - Not to conjure up hyperbole, or even contribute to "hot take" sports reaction culture - but this might have been the worst loss in Knicks franchise history. I cannot think of another in my lifetime, or historically.  - Tyrese Haliburton's "choke"...