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As Iron, Man Sharpens Man: Realizing Your Full Potential

The proverbial look into the mirror.

We all have those periodical moments when one must reevaluate the life he or she is leading. A reevaluation which includes understanding the past, grasping the present, and preparing for the future. Many times, the combination of the three are overwhelming, which causes these periodical moments, causing the vicious cycle over and over again.

It's life.

Nonetheless, many times a person is self-evaluated on varied standards. Most often, it is the standard of one's expectations. Specific goals, dreams and aspirations that you are capable of approaching. It's a challenge within yourself. What you aspire to be is the focus, a focus vastly isolated from the influence of others. These are the standards which you hold yourself accountable to in all facets of your life. If you fail, you reevaluate. You look into the mirror, and you get on track.

Another standard is by competition. Your self-evaluation is dependent on your understanding of others. Your driving force pushes you against the grain, not choosing failure as an option. You know what you must do in order to avoid it. It's not so much as what you expect from yourself, but how you compare to others, and your drive to exceed beyond others. So you use your past, understand what you need to do in the present, and you prepare for the future. You reevaluate. You look in to the mirror, and you get on track.

Then, there is what others expect from you. A form of trickery that can cause a misconception in the way one perceive and evaluate themselves. Further more, what happens when what you expect from yourself, is inferior to what others expect from you? Now you might say it doesn't matter, as long as you are content, but the fact of the matter is that everyone has blind spots. Blind spots which only others can view. Parts of our lives where you ultimately do not know the problem, solution nor the potential. You know have no idea of the past. Confused about the present. Clueless about the future.

Blind Spots.

They can be tricky.

A tricky formula, which includes unconditionally depending on others to realize and improve yourself.

Am I better? Are they right? Are they wrong? Can I do that?

They might be right. They might be wrong. However, at the end of the day, when you look into the proverbial mirror and apply it, you're that much closer...

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